Shenanigans F.A.Q.
Do
we have to be a married couple to enjoy the lifestyle? No.
You'll be welcomed whether you're married, dating, living with your significant
other or going steady.
They should, however, have a history together and familiarity with each others'
emotional needs, and be comfortable approaching others as a "couple."
Today's world has changed dramatically from just a few years ago. Marriage is
not a condition of belonging.
Shenanigans is not a location to come cheat on your significant other. You must
be of legal age and both of you need to know what the lifestyle is all about.
Do you accept
singles? Yes.
Yes, singles are welcome.
It is not required that single person come to the club the first time with a
club member. Single woman or men must be in the lifestyle for their emotional or
physical fulfillment only and not for any commercial gain. Soliciting sexual
favors in return for money or other considerations is illegal and prohibited in
the club. Single woman must also be careful to make their intentions clear to
other couples and not encourage one partner to meet privately without the
consent of the other partner.
Single men are welcome to visit the club alone on any of our Friday night
parties. On Saturdays, single males may attend with a member couple or single
female member.
NOTE:
When you bring a single to the club, you are responsible for their actions. If a
single is found violating club rules, both the single and couple will be asked
to leave.
Single males invited to a Saturday party will be required to leave
the party at the same time as the member or members that invited them.
Do we swap
partners, or what? This is up to you.
You never have to do anything that you do not want.
There are as many variations as there are participants. Every couple makes their
own rules as their level of comfort dictates. Some couples freely engage in
sexual activity
with others with or without their partner present (open swinging). Others don't
engage in sexual activity with anyone else, but enjoy the voyeuristic and
exhibitionistic
aspects of the lifestyle (soft swinging). You'll have to ask, and you're
responsible for letting others know what your particular preferences are with
other couples.
And, the rules seem to change depending on the situation, so always ask politely
before pressing on. Use common sense, be nice, and you'll most likely find a
receptive
partner to play with. The club scenario allows for sexual interaction, but the
socialization with like-minded couples is of more significance, given the
setting, the shared
conversations, and the many activities couples can engage in. Everyone remembers
their first time and most will be more than understanding.
Do we have to be
active in the lifestyle to join? NO!
Many couples who have joined us are just looking for a little extra excitement
to spice up their own relationship. Some are active in the lifestyle.
Some couples are exhibitionists, others are voyeurs, some are into fetish wear.
Yet, they all share one thing in common, they are all open minded and tolerant
of everyone.
This club will suit those who would enjoy meeting other couples in the lifestyle
and enjoying their company with no expectations of getting physical, unless of
course there
is that spark!
Do we have to be
club members to visit the club? Yes.
Shenanigans is a private membership club. We are not open to the general public.
Admission is only open to members of Shenanigans. Membership fees are posted in
the membership page.
What are the
people like and what are their ages? They are like you and me.
They want to relax and enjoy the erotic ambiance, shared with like-minded
couples who are more than likely of the very friendly and sociable sort.
From our observation we would say that the ages run mostly from 25 to 45 with
exceptions to both sides.
What is the right
time of the year to meet other couples or is there season?
Swinging and sexy getaways to Shenanigans are not restricted to times of the
year nor is it a seasonal thing.
There is no High season for swinging activities, nor Low season. Of course the
cub is only open on Fridays and Saturdays but special events can be booked for
other days of the week.
What does
"swinger" really mean? Does it mean that we have to physically interact with
other people? Not at all.
You and your partner decide what you want to do - or not do.
A recent study showed that about 50% of all couples who visit (or attend)
swinger clubs enjoy the erotic atmosphere, but don't want to interact with
others in changing or swapping partners. All members must obey the rules of no
pressure, no obligations and NO means NO.
What is included
and what are the additional costs ?
There are no additional cost. Included with your door donation and annual
membership is a very nice buffet table with a variety of entrees and veggies.
Your choice of soft drinks, tea's, coffee and water.
Set ups are available. You have full use of the private rooms and of course
dancing to DJ music is available. There are sexy games and other activities at
each party, or simply relax with your friends and enjoy a good evening.
Are our names
ever given out? NO!
Your name, address and phone number are personal and kept confidential. We never
give them out to other members without first getting your permission and we do
not sell our mailing lists. EVER!
Why should we
consider joining Shenanigans? There are many good reasons.
Maybe the most important one is that we have made Shenanigans geared to the
pleasure of our friends and ourselves. We know how it has to be for everyone to
be comfortable and enjoy themselves. If you enjoy a relaxed, laid-back no
pressure atmosphere and at the same time, adventurous erotic ambiance with other
like-minded couples, then you should come and join us.
Who stands behind
this lifestyle club? Real people who live and work in your home town.
Shenanigans is operated under the concept that all members have a vested
interest in the cub. Members take care of each other and the club. Suggestions
for improvements are always made and each members sees that all members are
having a good time. We all want to have a good time and want members to return
again and again.
Are drugs common
at lifestyle events? NO.
Any illegal substances are prohibited, of course, at any responsible swing club
(including this one).
The lifestyle is its own pleasure, couples don't need to dilute it. And don't
subject yourself and others to any legal problems. And do not risk having your
membership revoked and cancel due to illegal behavior. All illegal drugs will be
report to local police.
What if you run
into someone you know?
Running into someone you know is one of the biggest worries many people have
before they come out to their first club event. Afterwards it becomes less of an
issue as you quickly see that everyone is there for the same reasons and is of
the same honest and open temperament, and as a result
A) there are no "repercussions" within the lifestyle.
B) no one else is going to spill the beans to outsiders about seeing you there
because they are equally concerned about their own discretion too! This becomes
even more apparent after you do in fact meet someone whom you know, because both
your and their first reaction is always "I never would have expected to see you
here".
The reality is: although many people often run into others they know from the
outside world at lifestyle events, it virtually never proves to be an issue, and
often they become new closer friends as a result.
Of interest to
men...
Wandering around by yourself attempting to find a woman who wants to have sex is
considered inappropriate and offensive. Please remember to converse with both
members of a couple you and your partner are interested in, not just the partner
you are interested in having sex with; ultimately it's your ability to form
friendships with couples which will determine the quality of your experience in
the lifestyle community.
General hints for
enjoyable couples-only parties:
1)
Couples need not be married. They should, however, have a history together and
familiarity with each others' emotional needs, and be comfortable approaching
others as a "couple." The general rule of thumb is that any interaction works
best when couples view their lifestyle as an enhancement to their good, existing
sexual relationship, rather than as a replacement for a failing one. As one
would expect, good communication is critical in any attempt at swinging as a
couple. There are many, many different forms that swinging may take, and
whichever one you choose is fine as long as you and your partner are clear about
what you are doing and why. Sex has the potential to be an emotionally-charged
area, and the pleasures that may be found in swinging can generally be reached
only when both partners are sensitive to each others' needs, and put their
partners comfort first. From a more pragmatic point of view, there will always
be another party, another swingers cruise, another dance, another convention;
there may not be another chance to salvage an exploration into swinging if one
partner becomes overwhelmed in "the garden of delights" and forgets to treat his
or her primary partner with sensitivity and respect.
2)
It's important to keep in mind that this lifestyle is primarily a social
activity. The ordinary social customs of meeting people and initiating a
conversation are really not that different than at any other type of social
gathering, and the process by which acquaintances become close friends is not
that different either.
The key social traits that tend to be appreciated in the swinging community are
responsibility, friendliness, flirtatiousness, open-mindedness, and most
importantly stability with regard to one's primary relationship. As is the case
with almost all human social endeavors, if you already know people in a
particular community you'll probably be happier if you attend your first few
lifestyle events and holidays with these people so they can introduce you to
others. Waiting a little while and watching how others behave is also a good
idea, as it is in almost any new social situation. Common courtesy, of course,
is as welcome as it is in any other community; we're all just people, after all.
3)
There are several different styles of swinging which you may see at the club.
Some people may prefer not to be around when their partner is having sex with
someone else ("open swinging"), while others may insist on it ("closed
swinging"). The term "soft swinging" refers to trading partners just for the
purposes of heavy petting and then switching back to one's primary partner for
any actual sex. Then there are those couples who have not even reached the stage
of any physical interaction with other couples at all. It might be valuable for
you to think about whether there are any potential situations that you feel you
would be more or less comfortable in, and discuss these with your partner.
Although not all couples find it necessary to do this, some couples feel more
comfortable having social "codes" that only the two of them know. Examples might
be discreet phrases or gestures which mean
a)
one of you is attracted to the people or person he or she is talking to and
wants to know if you are interested in taking things further with them,
b)
a reply to the above, either affirmatively or negatively, and
c)
one of you is not having a good time and wants to get away from things for a
while.
4)
Dress code at Shenanigans tends to be more casual, since nudity is a common
outcome of the evening for many. At clubs it's a good idea to bring something
like a robe so you don't have to put all your clothes back on, and to avoid
wearing lots of jewelry that might get lost. If there's a dress theme for a
particular event, go with the theme.
5)
By the way, it is not necessary to actually have sex with other people to have a
good time in the lifestyle community. Activities can provide a wonderful
opportunity to flirt and be flirted with in a non-threatening yet
sensually-charged atmosphere, which can be fun in and of itself. Sexy games,
ice-breakers and related activities at the club can provide an opportunity to
appreciate the sights and sounds of seduction as an enhancement to sex with your
primary partner, whether you two decide to have sex later is purely up to you.